Or perhaps, “How not to”. As my clients are well aware of, I am an advocate of staying off the blogs at least a month before your wedding. At that point, you should feel confident in the decisions you have made and should stay away from anything that might make you feel differently. Its not that I don’t love (or completely stalk )inspirational blogs and pinterest. As I already mentioned, I am obsessed.
However, when it comes down to it, your wedding should reflect you as a couple. Not the latest fad, colors or themes. For instance, don’t incorporate the latest scrabble insanity if the only association is that you play words with friends once in a while. It has seriously gotten out of hand. Even Casa Sugar wrote an article for 10 ways to incorporate Scrabble into your wedding. Seriously? If you are my clients, I want to find out what your “Scrabble” is as a couple and then we can look at how to incorporate it.
Steve and I had a “scrabble” and it was called wine. A majority of our trips and frankly our nights revolve around wine. We knew we wanted to incorporate that feeling of exploration and adventure we get when wine tasting into our wedding. However, we are also minimalists. As an event designer, you might classify my wedding as simple, but it was all in the details. Steve and I tasted and hand picked the wine to be served at each table. Not only that, but each table was served different wine, and the table names reflected that. We inspired our tables to mingle and taste other wines having any extras brought back to the bar for tastings. Our placecards were within corks (duh), but that was just about as obvious as we got. We chose colors that encompassed fall and the harvest, and a rustic menu common in wine country but no one really overtlly noticed the theme, which I love. You didn’t see any cheeky wine references, or mini bottles as favors, etc. We wanted people to see and experience things that represented us as a couple, not an obvious statement of “I get it, they like wine”.
To all future brides and couples, don’t feel like you need a “scrabble” to have a perfect wedding. Maybe what represents you will result in a clean, modern affair with the best darn martinis on the face of the earth. I would definitely be a fan. If you do have a “scrabble”, that’s awesome, let’s get creative with it! Your guests are smarter than you think and a little subtlety can go a long way.